How I Cultivate Self Worth into My Life.
I grew up on a farm. A large farm where there is literally more stuff that needs doing you’d never finish half of it in 100 years. NO joke.
Sun up to sun down you WORKED your arse off.
Dad worked like a dog.
Mum worked like a dog.
Us kids worked like it was the only thing we knew how to do.
There was no such thing as:
Sick.
Tired.
Today I don’t feel up to it.
Reading in the sun with a cup of tea.
Long relaxing baths.
Coffee with a friend.
Movie in the afternoon.
I grew up believing working hard was a badge of HONOUR.
AND if I wore that badge.
I would be LOVED.
So naturally, until recently I’ve done just that. Worked until I’ve fallen down, practiced ZERO self-love and told myself I was worth nothing UNLESS I’d killed myself working until 2 am.
THEN it dawned on me.
I’m telling the universe I'm not worthy!
Not worthy of unconditional love.
Not worthy of self-care.
Not worthy of a business that felt good.
Not worthy of money I didn’t have to give blood for.
All these years I’ve been sending the wrong freaking message!
No wonder my life looked ugly.
And then moment I started to show myself some self-love and started to believe I was WORTHY of my dream life ( aka, I finally told the universe I was worthy of these things and it now had permission to send them into my life! ) that’s when everything started to change.
Even deeper love with Andy.
Money started to flow.
Better customers.
Beautiful friendships started to show up.
I was joyed at the thought of living.
Life felt GOOD.
Here are a few things I do daily to ensure I feel filled to my brim with worthiness!
1. I PUT MYSELF FIRST.
Becuase I am home with the kids during the day I've asked Andy to take the kids downstairs first thing in the morning so I can have my "time" in the morning. I usually have 30 minutes up my sleeve which generally looks like this:
Couple minutes of Yoga
10-minutes of meditation
Dry-body brushing
My new crazy dental protocol which I LOVE
Hot shower
Apply my olive/coconut oil blend with my essential oils on my body
This time alone, getting ready for the day uninterrupted makes me a much nicer person and reassures me I'm ME before I'm a mum.
2. I MOVE MY BODY EVERYDAY
Rain hail or shine I take myself and the kids for a walk along the ocean. There is something so magical about the fresh sea air and sunshine on our faces. Exercise makes me feel incredible and good about myself.
3. I EAT GOOD + IN PEACE
'Cheat' days have been long gone in my life and these days I'm not even tempted by food that really does not serve me. So, feeding my body clean organic food is just another way I am telling the universe I am worthy AND eating in peace, no phone, no reading material, just me and my bowl of whatever it is savouring every mouthful is a very loving act for me too.
4. I GET DRESSED
Earth shattering I know. BUT for a long time, I wouldn't shower again after my walk and I'd get around in my tights till the afternoon! These days I quickly re-shower and put on something nice for the day... even though I'm usually just showing up my office. Getting dressed and doing my hair makes me feel good.
5. MY SOUL HOUR
Every night, around 9 pm I'll head upstairs "to my special place" that's what Andy calls it anyway. It's actually just our bedroom! But for as long or as little time as I feel like it I'll sit on the floor and:
Practice Yoga
Meditate
Journal my feeling if I have any I'd like to resolve
Read/write/update my goals
Journal/visualise anything that I'd like to manifest
Read
Diffuse essential oils
Use my Joov Infrared Light
I can't even begin to express how much this soul hour at night has changed my life. I literally go to bed filled with love, contentment, excitement and inspiration and I believe all that then gets soaked into my subconscious as I sleep.
Comment below some of the things you love to do to keep your worthiness high!
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